Intrigued by Mama Kat’s prompt about what was on my blog one year ago, I decided to check it out. The closest date in my archives was December 4th. The topic? Yurts.

Seriously, yurts. Check it out –  I’ll hang out here while you read and learn about yurts.

So back to Mama Kat’s prompt – What were you blogging about a year ago today? What has changed?

The first thing I have to say about my post of a year ago is that I am perhaps more comfortable in my blog’s skin, so to speak. I think I’ve relaxed more in how I write and in what I write about. This blog has been a wonderful thing for me in so many ways and one of them is allowing me a space to talk about and think through the things that make me, well, me. Hence the title. So that’s a little different.

The next thing I noticed was my typos. I really try to be more careful about that. I could have edited those typos out of the original post, but in keeping with my belief that everything about our past makes us who we are today, I left them alone. Moving on.

Mostly, though, I think much of what was in that post is still the same.

For example, the Fab Hub and I still have conversations like that. Like every day. This is not a bad thing. For starters, they are part of what makes us the couple we are. We have a dialogue, a banter, a way we interact that is uniquely Us. And sometimes, all of that adds up to some pretty entertaining blog fodder, so more the better.

He still amazes me with the scope of his knowledge. The Fab Hub knows a lot of stuff about a lot of stuff. He’s smarter than he will ever admit and a far greater thinker than most people I know.

I still tell him that he’s not that funny even though I often think he is.

We still play the Well, Actually game that was briefly mentioned in that post, but never given a post of its own. Well, Actually is perhaps the single most annoying of the games we play in this house. For as long as I can remember, the Fab Hub has had a charming irritating habit of inserting a point of clarification into a conversation by prefacing it with the phrase, “well, actually…” and then proceeding to relay his point.

It’s annoying as hell. Even if his information is interesting or correct or pertinent.

And so at one point several years ago (when I thought I might explode if I heard him say it ever again), I told him so. We had a conversation about it. He understood how it could be interpreted as, well, obnoxious. And he stopped saying it.

But the game continues. I’m on to him. I know his trick.

He still refrains from saying “well, actually…” Instead, where a “well, actually” may have once appeared, a brief pause now exists. I know what he’s doing. He knows I know what he’s doing. This is how we roll.

But back to the topic at hand…

The Fab Hub still frequently suggests that a good topic for any given blog post is how awesome he is. Now, lest anyone think that the Fab Hub is the most egocentric and obnoxious man on the planet, he absolutely is not. In fact, he is probably the most humble and low-key human being I know. But yes, he’s still pretty awesome. I know it. He knows it know it. I probably don’t tell him that as often as I should, but I really do think so.

In the meantime, I kind of like the look back to a year ago. I may have to keep that in the blog somehow.

And what about you? What was on your blog a year ago? Share it in the comments!


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Lisa A. Listwa is a self-employed writer with experience in education, publishing, and the martial arts. Believing there was more to life than punching someone else’s time clock and inspired by the words of Henry David Thoreau, she traded her life as a high school educator for a life as a writer and hasn’t looked back. She is mother to one glorious handful of a daughter, wife to the nicest guy on the planet, and reluctant but devoted owner of three Rotten Cats. You can find her adventures and thoughts on living life deliberately here on the blog.

21 thoughts on “One Year Ago Today

  1. It is so interesting to look back to what was going on a year ago and to see what has changed and what hasn’t. I love what you said about getting more comfortable with your writing. I feel that way, too, when I look back.

  2. First, about the yurt. Never heard of one and was impressed that your husband had. The thing I was most impressed with, though, were the comments left by others. They actually knew people who gave up their houses to live in yurts?!?!?! Craziness!

    The “well, actually” game would make me crazy, too. Although, it seems I say “actually” quite a bit, since it’s always been one of the words my kids begin saying when they are about 2 years old.

    I enjoyed your description of the relationship you and Fab Hub have. All married couples do have a certain way of relating/communicating and little odd bits that get replayed that makes us Us. It’s as individual as a fingerprint.

    A year ago today, I was on the hunt for paper Christmas plates (Wal-mart didn’t have any.) and I had to pick up teeth pulled from strangers’ mouths from the dentist. Not a great day.

    1. The whole yurt thing was definitely a new piece of info for me. And no, now that I know what one is I would NOT trade my house for one.

      You’re so right about that individuality in relationships – and not just marriages, either. Just the other night, come to think of it, Kidzilla and I were in our home office yammering at each other about something – green pens or some such nonsense. When we came back to the kitchen, the Fab Hub was chuckling to himself. He said he was amused by us because of our banter – said it’s a particular way we do it with one another. I suppose he’s right. I think it’s good stuff – what makes you comfortable around someone. And again, earlier today, I whispered something to a person sitting next to me at a large (and rather loud) event and I don’t believe she really heard me; I know I could not make out what she said back to me. And I remember thinking to myself that if I were sitting next to the BFF or my Sister, we most assuredly would have known what the other had said. It’s that familiarity of communication with another person.

      As for your one year ago…I can tell you that you will usually fare much better at Target for holiday plates. The teeth thing…can’t help you there. 🙂

  3. Miss M. does the “Actually,” thing! It’s funny coming from a second grader, but I can see how it would grate on your nerves. I don’t think my husband says anything that grates on me, but I’m sure that I have plenty of annoying little turns of phrase.

    Brave of you to answer that prompt. I was afraid to go back in the archives in fear that I’d find something cringe-worthy.

    1. It would be way cuter on a second grader than it is on my Husband. I think one of these days I should let the Fab Hub do a post on all the things I do that annoy him. Now THAT would be brave. Picking Kat’s post about a year ago was my “oh what the hell” option because my brain is still too addled from the stomach thing.

  4. hmmm, what was I writing a year ago. I think I was writing a post about talent and why it wasn’t as important as we think. Yeah, now that I checked it out, that was what I wrote – well, as close as today as I could find.

    I’m glad you didn’t edit your previous post. I try not to do that either because I think it should be kept the same as it was when it was first released. I kept it that way for a reason, so I should probably keep it that way now. Yeah, I realize my writing gets better with time, but sometimes I like that raw wording of the post from years gone by. That’s my opinion anyway.

  5. My blog didn’t exist a year ago! Oh, the typos. As much I also have a supportive husband, he is so obnoxious in pointing out the typos. What’s really annoying about it is that I’m one of those anal people who judge (or maybe used to since I am so bad about it now) people on there (I know, their) typos. So I am mostly mad at myself for missing them in my proofreading.

    1. Wow, I’m way impressed that your blog is so new. Go you!

      Aren’t husbands just obnoxious in general? Honestly. 🙂 Mine likes to point out grammatical errors (and I’M the English teacher). So irritating. Mostly because I have to concede when he’s right, though. I think it’s just what you said – it irritates me that I miss them. However, having worked in the editorial department of a major magazine, I learned from the copy chief there that missing errors is very common if you just read your own work. There are lots of tips and tricks to help that problem!

  6. Lisa, why on earth would anyone know what a yurt is? FH is scary smart. As for your evolving blog, if you were ever uncomfortable, it didn’t show. Let the typpos role. It’s part of what makes you unique.

    We are in agreement that a meetup is definitely in order. Ever come to Nevada? I think we would have way too much fun and cry our eyes out until we ran out of kleenex from blowing our noses. (just saying). M

    1. See, this is what I said. But apparently, the FH did. And yeah, he is scary smart.

      Can’t say I ever pass by Nevada, but if I do, you are on my must-see list. I suspect we would have a fabulous time. If you blow through Pennsylvania, give me a holler. I’ll bring the tissues.

  7. Last year I was writing about how my dance experience was still affecting my life today. It’s still so much a part of who I am today – that post easily could have been posted this month.

    I’m glad you didn’t alter your old posts. That would be like going in and whiting out a diary. It was who you were at the time.

    I can see how Fab Hub’s habit could be irritating. I was glad to hear that you both now understand the shorthand where he doesn’t say the offending term. He technically quit doing part of the annoying offense!

    1. Some parts of us stay with us forever, right?

      The whole omission of the offending phrase thing is almost comical – we both know what goes in that pause. But the fact that he was willing to consider not saying it out loud is a credit to his commitment to the relationship we share. And on the flip side of that coin, I don’t go after him for the fact that we both know the pause still means the same thing. It works, you know? We give and take when we need to.

  8. How funny that a year ago you were writing about yurts! It was so enjoyable to read about your relationship with your hubs! Sounds like you have some great banter. I’m onto some of my boyfriends quirks, and it’s fun, to a degree, to learn them. We may have some “talks” about them as well. hahaha I did my prompt on the same topic. Interesting to look back.

    1. That really did give me a laugh – I had completely forgotten about it. Coming over to check out your year ago in a minute.

      Thanks for your lovely comment, Mimi. I think the Fab Hub and I really do have a great rapport and banter between us. It definitely is the way we communicate with one another, but it also gives us lots of great stories. 🙂

  9. A year ago I had just finished a year long reading project of War and Peace. I didn’t join in on any reading groups this year. The last one wore me out. Thanks so much for stopping by.

  10. This is funny! I love the Well Actually game explanation. My husband would also love it if I wrote about him exclusively. I didn’t do the year ago prompt, but back then I was writing about how I love It’s A Wonderful Life. And I still do.

    1. Know why I did the one year ago prompt? Because I was totally stuck for any other more fascinating ideas that week. 🙂

      I secretly enjoy the Well Actually game – but please don’t tell the Fab Hub!

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