TToT – Birthdays and Life

Categories Crying, Growing, Living, Loving, Praying, Remembering, Thinking

Some days make you stop and think about life more than others.

Today is one of those days.

Our Daughter is seven years old today and I have spent a great deal of time this week, and especially today, thinking about how we came to be in this moment…

I’m going to try to do it here without crying too much.

I am thankful, first and foremost, that we are both here – alive and together. To say that Zilla’s birth did not go as planned is a gross understatement. Suffice to say that for a time that night, the Fab Hub (and now Fab Dad) was not certain whether he would leave that hospital with a family or without one. Through the grace of God we are here, together, a family. So we celebrate not only her birthday, but the birth of our family…


I am thankful that through Zilla’s difficult birth and the immediate aftermath, my Father-in-Law was there for us. As a physician, his presence and guidance was comforting. That was crucial for all of us when things got scary. I am thankful for his sage advice in the days and weeks afterward; it has ensured our continued well-being as a family.

I am thankful for the Fab Hub’s Mom. She was there, too, worrying and waiting with all the rest. I am thankful that she kept my Mom company and gave her things to talk about and think about.

I am thankful for my Mom. Of course she would be present at the birth of our child. Knowing she was there, as she always has been, was so important in so many ways. I am thankful for her calm exterior, even when her internal demeanor might be anything but. I am thankful that she was right beside me the second I opened my eyes in recovery. I am thankful for every moment that she is part of our lives and for the example of motherhood she provides every day.

I am thankful for my Sister and for her humor. Of course she was present and concerned just like everyone else. But her ability to find humor and use it to ease the tension is a gift. I am thankful for her presence in the days after Zilla’s birth and for so many days ever since that she is part of our lives.

I am thankful for how Zilla has changed me – changed both of us. So much of who I am and who my Husband is today is because of this beautiful little creature who has graced our lives.


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Lisa A. Listwa is a self-employed writer with experience in education, publishing, and the martial arts. Believing there was more to life than punching someone else’s time clock and inspired by the words of Henry David Thoreau, she traded her life as a high school educator for a life as a writer and hasn’t looked back. She is mother to one glorious handful of a daughter, wife to the nicest guy on the planet, and reluctant but devoted owner of three Rotten Cats. You can find her adventures and thoughts on living life deliberately here on the blog.

34 thoughts on “TToT – Birthdays and Life

  1. This IS a beautiful post. And having the important people around you during a difficult birth and thanking them is wonderful. I like the way you say Zilla’s birth was the birth of your family. My eldest is turning 30 in September and I’m going to remember to think of that on his special day. Hope the party is fantastic. All those pink balloons. 🙂

    1. Thanks, Val. I really do think of it that way. Everything changed in so many ways that day.
      The party – and the after-party – was awesome! The balloons have moved to the living room so we’re all enjoying them!

  2. Happy birthday, Zilla! and happy gave birth and survived day to you. Sounds like a frightening day, but I’m glad you had everyone there to support you.
    Have a great time at that party!

  3. What a beautifully written post. Happy Birthday to your family! I really can’t wait to read all about the birthday celebration. Hope you have a fun weekend.

  4. This is a perfectly beautiful post to follow up the other perfectly beautiful post that you wrote earlier this week, Lisa! Sweet Tea was completely awesome – as is this gorgeous post! The amazing people in our lives that so many of us are blessed enough to call “family” – they are certainly blessings and worthy of our thankfulness. Your sister sounds a lot like one of mine – always finds the humor in things. Her one-liners have always given me smiles – even in the worst of times. And your mom – she sounds a lot like mine was as well. Calm and supportive on the outside, regardless of what was going on in her mind and heart. Happy Birthday Zilla and to you and all of her wonderful family! A wonderful day to celebrate indeed! 🙂

  5. Happy Birthday Zilla! I hope her day was as special as she is. I have also been blessed with an incredible (miracle) turn out of a tough beginning so yeah, this got me right in the feels. Than goodness you both made it – you’re two tough broads.

  6. Ohhh I hope you had the most glorious, wonderful shark-party EVER, and I’m so glad for how beautifully Zilla’s changed your life and made your family so wonderful. And I love that your writing reflects how deeply that runs.

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